februar, 2021

Her-O

Dear unnamed Men! A sincere thank you for sharing your intimate confession with us. We appreciate your courage to share your experience with us and write it down without embellishments.

Following letter was anonymously send to our email.

"For me, women have become an object I penetrate in order to feel pleasure in the genital area. That’s all, no intimacy, tenderness, touch and love. How could I know that there exist a gentle touch of affection if I have learned that pleasure can only be sex as presented in porn films."

Catalogs of pleasure

For the first time in my life, I came across sexually arousing content at an early age. I think it was before I started attending elementary school. I remember my parents purchasing a huge clothes catalog every summer to order things from Austria. A few pages of this catalog were also devoted to underwear. Among them, there were always a few where the girls in the photos showed their breasts.

This is where it all started, these images of breasts aroused me and my hands soon found their way into my panties and started exploring. This was followed by pleasant sensations that invited me to touch my penis frequently. At first it was only a few times a month to the point where I masturbated every day.

A real interest in naked bodies and sexuality developed a little later but still in the early years, maybe at the age of ten. My cousin was spending the holidays at my family’s place and so we had all the time in the world to do whatever we wanted. In the evening, due to access to various German TV channels, we were able to watch programs that showed so-called soft porn content. And my cousin persuaded me to masturbate and also showed me how exactly I should do it. Of course I also wanted to master this thing as well as he did, so I started training hard whenever I could watch TV without being caught by my parents.

I had the good fortune or misfortune that my parents bought a computer and internet access very early on, even when this technological story was very much in its infancy compared to today’s possibilities. Computer + internet + teenager = pornography. This was my daily formula that lasted for about 13 years.

I didn’t tell anyone about my doing, I didn’t talk to anyone about it, it had to be kept a secret. We didn’t have a completely mysterious attitude towards sexuality at home but we never really talked openly about this topic, so the main source of information for me was porn.

Somewhere in the sixth grade of elementary school, interest in girls increased even more. For the first time I wanted to invite a girl on a date. And at the time, my only teachers on how to do it were pornography and romantic comedies.

"What drives me to masturbate?"

I persistently masturbated throughout high school, faculty, and even later when important information reached me and enlightened me about my intimate relationship to my own body in a profound way.

I realized that what we observe, listen to, watch and absorb strongly determines what goes around in our heads.

I became attentive to my own thoughts and quickly noticed that more than half of these were coloured by sexual fantasies. It didn’t take me long to decipher where they came from, from porn of course. This became even clearer to me when I began to realize that I don’t actually sleep really deeply all night long because my body and mind are processing a variety of scenes and content from porn I watched before I fell asleep.

My routine was such that I masturbated just before I closed my eyes and fell asleep.

The more I became aware of what was going on in my head, the more I realized that doing so creates a tremendous amount of restlessness, nervousness, and uncontrollable passion.

I read that with every ejaculation, a large amount of life energy goes from our body. Many top athletes are prohibited from having sex and masturbating before competitions precisely because of this. I wanted to check if this was really the case and tried to put masturbation aside for a few days. It quickly became clear to me that I was deeply addicted. When the evening came all my attention went to thinking about opening my laptop to watch various porn sites and start masturbating. I think that the intention not to masturbate made my mind want it even more.

"... women from porn have become only an object which arouses my penis..."

My perception of women was also affected by this. All the naked girls and women from porn, the number of which have certainly reached up to thousands over the years, have become for me only an object which arouses my penis so that I can touch it with my hand and at the same time imagine in my mind how I penetrate in the woman I see.

For me, women have become an object I penetrate in order to feel pleasure in the genital area. That’s all, no intimacy, tenderness, touch and love. How could I know that there exist a gentle touch of affection if I have learned that pleasure can only be sex as presented in porn films.

The more you come in contact with your body, the less you can enjoy purely mechanical masturbation

I am very grateful to be able to speak now about this matter as something that is part of my past.

In my life’s journey, I have met individuals who have brought me closer to ways of expressing love that do not only stem from the need to fullfill accumulated fantasies. It took me about a year to gather enough willpower to stop masturbating. It certainly helped that I was already tired of it.

The more I came in contact with my body and its tenderness, the less I was able to enjoy rubbing my penis. A friend advised me to just lie on the floor and observe with my attention all the feelings in my body and the thoughts parallel to it. I did this mostly when my sexual desire intensified to an extent that I was on the verge of masturbation. I was watching the sensations and my body started to relax deeply. Then something unimaginable happened, I experienced a whole body orgasm without touching anything. What emerged from this experiment is a great practice of relaxation and I believe that all the sexual energy that has accumulated somewhere in me over the years through observation and relaxation spills over my entire body and nourishes me with freshness and strength.

It is a fact that I feel so much better since I don’t masturbate anymore. I have a lot more willpower to persevere in the work and things I want to do. I’m not that tired and I don’t look at women as walking vaginas anymore.

Is masturbation categorically bad?

What I have written, however, does not mean that I believe that masturbation in general is a bad thing.

I believe that intimate exploration of one’s own body, as a form of loving oneself, can be a very fulfilling form of masturbation. It’s mostly about not being in our minds and our heads in the meantime, but really present in the feelings we’re experiencing.

Not to look for instant solutions to sexual frustrations but to delve into our feelings. We should explore where they come from and what pleases, deepens, boils or encourages them.

To understand pornography and what levers it works on, and what role actors and actresses play in it. So depends on our perception what mastrurbation is:

Stairway to Heaven or Highway to Hell!

Her-O

Dragi neimenovani Moški! Iskrena hvala, ker si delil z nami svojo intimno izpoved. Cenimo tvoj pogum, da si z nami delil svojo izkušnjo ter jo zapisal brez olepšavanj.

V uredništvo smo prejeli spodnji zapis. Avtor želi ostati anonimen.

"Ženske so zame postale objekt, v katerega prodrem, zato da občutim užitek v območju genitalij. To je vse, nobene intimnosti, nežnosti, dotikanja, ljubezni. Kako bi lahko vedel, da sploh obstaja nežen dotik naklonjenosti, če sem se naučil, da je užitek lahko le spolni odnos, predstavljen na zelo pestre načine v porno filmih."

Katalogi užitka

Prvič v življenju sem se srečal s spolno vzburljivimi vsebinami že v zgodnjem otroštvu. Mislim da je to bilo že pred začetkom obiskovanja osnovne šole. Spomnim se, da sta moja starša vsako pol-letje naročila ogromen katalog za naročanje stvari iz Avstrije. Nekaj strani tega kataloga je bilo namenjenega tudi spodnjemu perilu. Med njimi se je zmeraj znašlo nekaj primerov, kjer so punce na fotografijah kazale prsi.

Tukaj se je vse začelo, teh nekaj parov prsi me je vzburilo in moje roke so kmalu našle pot v spodnjice in pričele z raziskovanjem. Sledili so prijetni občutki, ki so vabili k pogostem dotikanju penisa, sprva je to bilo le nekajkrat na mesec do točke ko sem masturbiral vsak dan.

Zares pravo zanimanje za gola telesa in seksualnost se je razvilo malo kasneje, a še zmeraj v zgodnjih letih, morda pri desetih. Bratranec je preživljal počitnice pri nas in tako sva imela ves čas na svetu za početje česarkoli sva si zaželela. Ob večernih urah sva zaradi dostopa do različnih nemških TV kanalov lahko spremljala programe, ki so kazali tako imenovano soft porn vsebino. In bratranec me je nagovoril k masturbaciji ter mi tudi pokazal na sebi, kako točno bi to moral početi. Seveda sem hotel tudi jaz to stvar tako dobro obvladati kot on, tako da sem začel pridno trenirati vselej, ko sem le lahko gledal TV, brez da bi me pri tem zalotili starši.

Imel sem to srečo ali nesrečo, da so moji starši že zelo zgodaj kupili računalnik in dostop do interneta, še ko je bila ta tehnološka zgodba zelo v povojih v primerjavi z današnjimi zmožnostmi. Računalnik + internet + mladostnik = pornografija. To je bila moja vsakodnevna formula, ki je trajala okoli 13 let.

Nikomur nisem govoril o svojem početju, z nikomer se nisem o tem pogovarjal, moralo je biti skrivnostno. Doma sicer nismo imeli povsem skrivnostnega odnosa do spolnosti ampak se zares pravzaprav nikoli nismo odkrito pogovarjali o tej temi, tako da je bil glavni vir informacij zame pornič.

Nekje v šestem razredu osnovne šole, se je zanimanje za dekleta še povečalo. Prvič sem se soočal s tem, da sem dekle želel povabiti na zmenek. In takrat sta bili edini moji učiteljici kako naj bi se to naredilo, pornografija in romantične komedije.

Danes vem, da je to bila to zagotovo zelo nezdrava mešanica za odraščajočega mladostnika..

"Kaj me žene v samozadovoljevanje?"

Z masturbiranjem sem vztrajal vseskozi srednjo šolo, študij in še kasneje do zadnjega leta, ko je do mene prispel en kup informacij, ki so mi intimni odnos do lastnega telesa prikazale v novi luči.

Spoznal sem, da vse kar opazujemo, poslušamo, gledamo, vsrkavamo vase, močno determinira kar roji po naših glavah.

Postal sem pozoren na lastne misli in hitro sem opazil, da je več kot pol teh obarvanih s seksualnimi fantazijami. Nisem rabil dolgo razvozlavati od kod pridejo, iz porničev seveda. To mi je še toliko bolj postalo jasno, ko sem se začel zavedati, da po cele noči pravzaprav ne spim zares globoko, ker moje telo in um predelujeta raznorazne scene in vsebine iz porničev, ki sem jih gledal preden sem zaspal.

Moja rutina je bila namreč taka, da tik preden sem zatisnil oči in zaspal, sem vedno še masturbiral.

Bolj ko sem postajal zavesten (nad tem) o tem, kar se dogaja v moji glavi, bolj sem ugotavljal, da to početje ustvarja ogromno nemira, živčnosti in nekontrolirane strasti.

Prebral sem, da gre z vsakim izlivom iz nas tudi velika količina življenjske energije. Marsikateri vrhunski športniki imajo pred tekmami prepoved spolnih odnosov in masturbacije ravno zaradi tega vedenja. Želel sem preveriti ali to res velja in poskusil za nekaj dni odložiti masturbacijo na stran. Postalo mi je hitro jasno da sem globoko odvisen. Napočil je večer in vsa moja pozornost je šla k temu, da bi si odprl laptop in različne porno strani ter začel masturbirati. Pravzaprav je zaradi namere da ne bi, že ves dan moj um iskal načine, kako se bo to zgodilo, ter si predstavljal da to že počnem.

"... ženske iz porničev so zame postale objekt, ki vzburi moj penis..."

Vplivalo je tudi na moje dojemanje žensk. Vsa gola dekleta in ženske iz porničev, ki se jih je skozi vsa leta gotovo nabralo na tisoče, so zame postala objekt, ki vzburi moj penis, zato da se ga lahko dotaknem z roko ter si hkrati v mislih predstavljam, kako v videno žensko prodrem.

Ženske so zame postale objekt, v katerega prodrem, zato da občutim užitek v območju genitalij. To je vse, nobene intimnosti, nežnosti, dotikanja, ljubezni. Kako bi lahko vedel, da sploh obstaja nežen dotik naklonjenosti, če sem se naučil, da je užitek lahko le spolni odnos, predstavljen na zelo pestre načine v porno filmih.

Bolj ko prideš v stik s svojim telesom, manj lahko uživaš v zgolj mehanski masturbaciji

Zelo sem hvaležen, da sedaj lahko suvereno govorim o tej zadevi kot o nečem, kar je del moje preteklosti.

Na svoji življenjski poti sem se srečal s posamezniki in posameznicami, ki so mi vendarle približali načine izražanja ljubezni, ki ne izhajajo samo iz potrebe po izpolnjevanju nakopičenih fantazij. Približno eno leto je trajalo, da sem zbral dovoljšno količino volje za prenehanje masturbiranja. Pri tem mi je gotovo pomagalo, da sem se je že naveličal.

Vse bolj ko sem prihajal v stik s svojim telesom in njegovo nežnostjo, manj sem lahko užival v drgnjenju penisa. Prijateljica mi je svetovala, da naj samo ležem na tla in opazujem s svojo pozornostjo, občutke v svojem telesu ter njim vzporedne misli. To sem počel najbolj takrat, ko se je spolna sla tako intenzivirala, da sem bil na robu masturbacije in seveda tega nisem hotel. Opazoval sem občutke in ob tem se je moje telo pričelo globoko sproščati na kar se je zgodilo nekaj nepredstavljivega, tako rekoč sem doživel orgazem celega telesa, brez da bi se dotaknil česarkoli. Naslednji dan sem poskusil znova in nič se ni zgodilo. Kar je nastalo iz tega eksperimenta je odlična praksa sproščanja in verjamem, da se vsa spolna energija, ki se je nekje v meni nakopičila tekom let skozi opazovanje in sproščanje preliva po celem telesu in me napaja s svežino in močjo.

Dejstvo je, da odkar ne masturbiram se mnogo boljše počutim. Imam veliko več volje za vztrajanje pri delu in stvareh, ki jih želim početi. Nisem toliko utrujen in ne gledam na ženske več kot na hodeče vagine.

Ali je masturbacija kategorično slaba?

Kar sem napisal pa še ne pomeni, da mislim da je vsaka masturbacija- slaba masturbacija.

Verjamem da je lahko intimno raziskovanje lastnega telesa, kot oblika ljubljenja s samim seboj zelo izpolnjujoča oblika masturbacije. Gre predvsem za to, da nismo med tem v mislih in svoji glavi, temveč zares prisotni v občutkih, ki jih doživljamo.

Da ne iščemo instant rešitev za seksualne frustracije ampak se poglobimo v svoje občutke. Raziskujemo, od kje prihajajo in kaj jih poteši, poglobi, zavre ali vzpodbudi.

Da razumemo pornografijo in na kakšne vzvode deluje, ter v kakšni vlogi so v njej akterji in akterke.

Od tega je torej odvisno kaj nam predstavlja masturbacija:

Her-O

Dear unnamed Men! A sincere thank you for sharing your intimate confession with us. We appreciate your courage to share your experience with us and write it down without embellishments.

Following letter was anonymously send to our email.

Catalogs of pleasure

I didn’t tell anyone about my doing, I didn’t talk to anyone about it, it had to be kept a secret. We didn’t have a completely mysterious attitude towards sexuality at home but we never really talked openly about this topic, so the main source of information for me was porn.

Somewhere in the sixth grade of elementary school, interest in girls increased even more. For the first time I wanted to invite a girl on a date. And at the time, my only teachers on how to do it were pornography and romantic comedies.

"What drives me to masturbate?"

I persistently masturbated throughout high school, faculty, and even later when important information reached me and enlightened me about my intimate relationship to my own body in a profound way.

I realized that what we observe, listen to, watch and absorb strongly determines what goes around in our heads.

My routine was such that I masturbated just before I closed my eyes and fell asleep.

The more I became aware of what was going on in my head, the more I realized that doing so creates a tremendous amount of restlessness, nervousness, and uncontrollable passion.

"... women from porn have become only an object which arouses my penis..."

For me, women have become an object I penetrate in order to feel pleasure in the genital area. That’s all, no intimacy, tenderness, touch and love. How could I know that there exist a gentle touch of affection if I have learned that pleasure can only be sex as presented in porn films.

The more you come in contact with your body, the less you can enjoy purely mechanical masturbation

I am very grateful to be able to speak now about this matter as something that is part of my past.

In my life’s journey, I have met individuals who have brought me closer to ways of expressing love that do not only stem from the need to fullfill accumulated fantasies. It took me about a year to gather enough willpower to stop masturbating. It certainly helped that I was already tired of it.

It is a fact that I feel so much better since I don’t masturbate anymore. I have a lot more willpower to persevere in the work and things I want to do. I’m not that tired and I don’t look at women as walking vaginas anymore.

Is masturbation categorically bad?

What I have written, however, does not mean that I believe that masturbation in general is a bad thing.

I believe that intimate exploration of one’s own body, as a form of loving oneself, can be a very fulfilling form of masturbation. It’s mostly about not being in our minds and our heads in the meantime, but really present in the feelings we’re experiencing.

Not to look for instant solutions to sexual frustrations but to delve into our feelings. We should explore where they come from and what pleases, deepens, boils or encourages them.

To understand pornography and what levers it works on, and what role actors and actresses play in it. So depends on our perception what mastrurbation is:

Stairway to Heaven or Highway to Hell!

Her-O

Dragi neimenovani Moški! Iskrena hvala, ker si delil z nami svojo intimno izpoved. Cenimo tvoj pogum, da si z nami delil svojo izkušnjo ter jo zapisal brez olepšavanj.

V uredništvo smo prejeli spodnji zapis. Avtor želi ostati anonimen.

Katalogi užitka

Tukaj se je vse začelo, teh nekaj parov prsi me je vzburilo in moje roke so kmalu našle pot v spodnjice in pričele z raziskovanjem. Sledili so prijetni občutki, ki so vabili k pogostem dotikanju penisa, sprva je to bilo le nekajkrat na mesec do točke ko sem masturbiral vsak dan.

Nikomur nisem govoril o svojem početju, z nikomer se nisem o tem pogovarjal, moralo je biti skrivnostno. Doma sicer nismo imeli povsem skrivnostnega odnosa do spolnosti ampak se zares pravzaprav nikoli nismo odkrito pogovarjali o tej temi, tako da je bil glavni vir informacij zame pornič.

Nekje v šestem razredu osnovne šole, se je zanimanje za dekleta še povečalo. Prvič sem se soočal s tem, da sem dekle želel povabiti na zmenek. In takrat sta bili edini moji učiteljici kako naj bi se to naredilo, pornografija in romantične komedije.

Danes vem, da je to bila to zagotovo zelo nezdrava mešanica za odraščajočega mladostnika..

"Kaj me žene v samozadovoljevanje?"

Z masturbiranjem sem vztrajal vseskozi srednjo šolo, študij in še kasneje do zadnjega leta, ko je do mene prispel en kup informacij, ki so mi intimni odnos do lastnega telesa prikazale v novi luči.

Spoznal sem, da vse kar opazujemo, poslušamo, gledamo, vsrkavamo vase, močno determinira kar roji po naših glavah.

Moja rutina je bila namreč taka, da tik preden sem zatisnil oči in zaspal, sem vedno še masturbiral.

Bolj ko sem postajal zavesten (nad tem) o tem, kar se dogaja v moji glavi, bolj sem ugotavljal, da to početje ustvarja ogromno nemira, živčnosti in nekontrolirane strasti.

"... ženske iz porničev so zame postale objekt, ki vzburi moj penis..."

Vplivalo je tudi na moje dojemanje žensk. Vsa gola dekleta in ženske iz porničev, ki se jih je skozi vsa leta gotovo nabralo na tisoče, so zame postala objekt, ki vzburi moj penis, zato da se ga lahko dotaknem z roko ter si hkrati v mislih predstavljam, kako v videno žensko prodrem.

Bolj ko prideš v stik s svojim telesom, manj lahko uživaš v zgolj mehanski masturbaciji

Zelo sem hvaležen, da sedaj lahko suvereno govorim o tej zadevi kot o nečem, kar je del moje preteklosti.

Dejstvo je, da odkar ne masturbiram se mnogo boljše počutim. Imam veliko več volje za vztrajanje pri delu in stvareh, ki jih želim početi. Nisem toliko utrujen in ne gledam na ženske več kot na hodeče vagine.

Ali je masturbacija kategorično slaba?

Kar sem napisal pa še ne pomeni, da mislim da je vsaka masturbacija- slaba masturbacija.

Verjamem da je lahko intimno raziskovanje lastnega telesa, kot oblika ljubljenja s samim seboj zelo izpolnjujoča oblika masturbacije. Gre predvsem za to, da nismo med tem v mislih in svoji glavi, temveč zares prisotni v občutkih, ki jih doživljamo.

Da ne iščemo instant rešitev za seksualne frustracije ampak se poglobimo v svoje občutke. Raziskujemo, od kje prihajajo in kaj jih poteši, poglobi, zavre ali vzpodbudi.

Da razumemo pornografijo in na kakšne vzvode deluje, ter v kakšni vlogi so v njej akterji in akterke.

Od tega je torej odvisno kaj nam predstavlja masturbacija:

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